Is sex essential for a relationship is a question which has been asked repeatedly for many years. Hopefully, most people would say that it is not, that a relationship should be based on feelings, respect and love.
Most relationships begin with great regular sex, often daily as it is all new and you just can’t keep your hands off of each other! This fades to less regular sex as you settle in to a relationship for the long term. While this is perfectly normal it can occasionally have an effect on the relationship as a whole.
Why do some people need sex more than others?
On a basic level, everyone has a different level of sex drive; some people can take it or leave it while others have a greater need for regular sex. On a deeper level, sex is sometimes seen as more than just the physical act.
Spiritually, sex can sometimes be viewed as a connection which is greater than any other. These people view sex as a connecting of souls, the deepest and most powerful show of love, while emotionally sex can be a way to reassure your partner that they are loved and wanted. A drop in sexual activity with a partner can lead to feelings of rejection, vulnerability and insecurity. While these feelings are unfounded they are no less real for the person experiencing them.
Should you have sex with a partner just to satisfy their emotional needs?
This is a difficult question which has no definitive answer. Generally speaking, sex should never be for any reason other than love but this can then give more questions than answers!
There are many other ways to show your partner how much you love them you just need to find a way that works best for both of you.
Sex is not essential in a relationship but it can help to build and maintain the love, keep the emotions on an even keel and let’s face it, it can be fun too!